Find healing over time

Fran Wohlenhaus-Munday and Jack Munday
Guest Writers

When is the past truly the past? Marlys was born in early 1961, over 50 years ago. She died in 1979, over 32 years ago. So when a woman called us to talk about Marlys, and Diane Edwards, another victim of the serial killer who took Marlys from us, it was like the past came back.

The woman, Rosemary, also a victim of the same evil person, did an internet search for her own maiden name and found our book, “Justice For Marlys.” She called us because all the fear she felt when she was being raped came back to her. She wanted assurances that the perpetrator is still in prison, and we explained that he was serving six consecutive life sentences, which are 30 years long in Minnesota. He would never be free.

Rosemary said that she still felt fear, had nightmares from time to time.

Fran spoke calmly, talked to her about getting help for her emotional trauma. Fran suggested professional help and also said that she should most definitely talk to others who have had the same trauma that she had endured. “Find a support group,” Fran said. Rosemary tragically said she sometimes felt she should have died instead of Marlys or Diane.

Fran pointed out how her feelings were quite normal, that Fran had experienced some of the same emotions. Fran also told her that she had found healing over time by learning through bereavement support groups and our reflections, on how to find and walk on the path to healing. Fran shared our formula for finding that good but very different life, by telling our stories, seeking good memories, and finding ways to help others.

Rosemary seemed to calm down, sounded more relaxed than she did at the start of the call. Before she hung up, Rosemary promised to find a support group and talk about what had happened to her. She even said that she could see how holding her emotions inside her has obviously kept her from being free from the pain and agony of being attacked.

When we talked about the call together, we both said we felt some of the pain come back from that horrible day when Fran came home to find Marlys after she had been attacked. We also felt comfort in knowing that we had helped another victim find her way to her own path to healing.

Fran and Jack Munday have worked with the bereaved for more than 25 years, and write frequently on grief issues. E-mail: Ourhealingpath@aol.com. Information about their books is available at www.murdercanbesolved.com. Jack’s latest book can be found at www.johnsmunday.com 

 

 

 

 

 

Fran Wohlenhaus-Munday and Jack Munday

Guest Writers

When is the past truly the past? Marlys was born in early 1961, over 50 years ago. She died in 1979, over 32 years ago. So when a woman called us to talk about Marlys, and Diane Edwards, another victim of the serial killer who took Marlys from us, it was like the past came back.

The woman, Rosemary, also a victim of the same evil person, did an internet search for her own maiden name and found our book, “Justice For Marlys.” She called us because all the fear she felt when she was being raped came back to her. She wanted assurances that the perpetrator is still in prison, and we explained that he was serving six consecutive life sentences, which are 30 years long in Minnesota. He would never be free.

Rosemary said that she still felt fear, had nightmares from time to time.

Fran spoke calmly, talked to her about getting help for her emotional trauma. Fran suggested professional help and also said that she should most definitely talk to others who have had the same trauma that she had endured. “Find a support group,” Fran said. Rosemary tragically said she sometimes felt she should have died instead of Marlys or Diane.

Fran pointed out how her feelings were quite normal, that Fran had experienced some of the same emotions. Fran also told her that she had found healing over time by learning through bereavement support groups and our reflections, on how to find and walk on the path to healing. Fran shared our formula for finding that good but very different life, by telling our stories, seeking good memories, and finding ways to help others.

Rosemary seemed to calm down, sounded more relaxed than she did at the start of the call. Before she hung up, Rosemary promised to find a support group and talk about what had happened to her. She even said that she could see how holding her emotions inside her has obviously kept her from being free from the pain and agony of being attacked.

When we talked about the call together, we both said we felt some of the pain come back from that horrible day when Fran came home to find Marlys after she had been attacked. We also felt comfort in knowing that we had helped another victim find her way to her own path to healing.

Fran and Jack Munday have worked with the bereaved for more than 25 years, and write frequently on grief issues. E-mail: Ourhealingpath@aol.com. Information about their books is available at www.murdercanbesolved.com. Jack’s latest book can be found at www.johnsmunday.com 

 

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